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Knowing Your Self Worth.

Know your worth.
Know the difference between what you're getting and what you deserve. 

Let me be honest here, this blog post has been really hard to type. I have had to endure some pretty difficult relationships in my life. I've had to learn really hard lessons from them and if I can save one heart from being broken, then I know I did my job.

If it is one thing I have learned from these relationships it is this:

Moving on and letting go has absolutely nothing to do with weakness. If anything, it's all about pure strength. 

When you realize your own worth, you can without a doubt, walk away from people and choices that don't serve you in a healthy manner. You can walk away with your head held high and not feel shamed for it. I know that this is easier said than done but, in the end, we all deserve love, respect, and kindness. 

If any kind of relationship in your life romantic, friend, or an empoyer fills you or your heart with:
  • Pain
  • Mistreatment
  • Disrespect
  • Dishonesty etc.
It's time to step away from the situation and view what is going on. You can do this with a trusted friend (who has earned the right to hear your story) or you can seek out professional advice. Either way, when you step out and view the situation as a whole and reconnect with your true self, you will find that you deserve so much more. 

A relationship of any kind should never ever make you feel:
  • Broken
  • Beaten
  • Exhausted
  • Or Shamed
If it does, you are not going to have any kind of energy left. No energy, no self-esteem, no will, you will have absolutely nothing left and that isn't what a relationship with anyone is supposed to be. 

If this hits home, then it could mean that it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. You can also cut ties and move on cleanly, avoiding any further damage or grief. 

These kind of relationships unfortunately, just are not going to get better. It doesn't matter how hard we try, wish or pray. Simply put: it's unhealthy and toxic and you need to move on.

Not every relationship we have in our life is built to last either. No matter how hard or baldy we wish they would. I have learned first hand, that life cycles. We have lessons to learn and we can either learn from them and grow OR we continue to repeat the same situation over and over again until we learn. 

When we learn to value ourselves, we really do attract those people who know our worth and deter others who are toxic for us.

Don't get me wrong, change is never easy. Walking away from a relatioship or job is very scary. Let me rephrase that, it is down right terrifying and I say this because I have been there so many times. 

The unknown and what if's are just down right frightening. You know, those tiny little thoughts in the back of our head the"what if things change" or "what if things get better" but truth be told: if they haven't yet, chances are they are never going to. I know that is a difficult thing to swallow.

We need to be able to step out of our comfort zones. Don't keep making the same safe and easy choices just because you are afraid of what may or may not happen. Nothing will ever change in our lives if we keep doing what we have always done. 

If we do, we will always keep getting the same results and nothing will ever change, we will never grow and we will never be happy with our lives or relationships.

Life is never easy and there are no instruction manuals. There will always be things that build us up and tear us apart. However, the difficult things that happen to us, the obstacles we over come, will always help provide us with many opportunities to grow and learn. They will help us become aware of the things that we do and do not want in any kind of relationship, job or life experience.

Getting down to the "knitty gritty" of things is: life is way too short to be stuck with the things, people or jobs that constantly hurt us. We all need to have enough respect for ourselves to finally say "Enough is enough." Let go. Move on. 

Yes, lets just face this head on: I know that it's going to hurt (and it may hurt for a while) and you are going to be angry. However, in the end, it's going to be OK. You will look back at this as a learning experience. You'll also learn what not to submit yourself to in futute relationships or jobs.

Never let anyone dim your light, make you feel shame, or try change who you are. If there is something that you feel is wrong, don't be afraid to stand up for what you know and think is right. Be brave and stong and you will be victorious. It may not always seem that way, but trust me, someone who has been through it. Always be you; genuinely, corageously and even emotionally you.

You are beautiful. You are worthy. 
You deserve of love, kindness, and respect.

Much love, 

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